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This is a random journal entry taken off some lady's blog. I don't know her, but i admire the way she writes and the journal entries that she keeps. And this particular journal entry has a lot to do with what I feel strongly about today.

An article in a local paper stated that sometimes, women don't know the difference between
female attraction, infatuation, and love. So when women get attracted to ladies of the same
gender, when women get attracted to women, period, it means that the poor lady is just going
through a confusing time in her sexuality.

I think, it is a load of crap.

Granted, there are exceptions. At times, girls just get attracted to girls. They get
infatuated, and when this occurs especially during your teenage years, it is really just a
case of admiration or exploration. It isn't love, it's just confusion. I don't deny that
there are cases like this.

But, what if it isn't confusion, infatuation, attraction, or exploration? What if it really
is love? What if it isn't about social acceptance or a search for your sexual identity?
I believe that as long as you have found your true identity, and you know what you want, you
should go after it. Yes, it isn't exactly what society conforms to, but I'd much rather
deviate from the norm and be happy, instead of going with the flow and being unhappy.

I think that there are some people out there, for whom being a lesbian is about guilty
pleasure. In other words, they are lesbian, they cannot deny it, but because admitting that
you are one, or getting yourself a girlfriend isn't exactly flavour of the month, so they
would much rather be fashionable and deny it outright.

I used to think that i could turn straight if i tried hard enough. i thought it was a
classic case of confusion. But getting into a relationship with a guy made me see, very
clearly, that it was not what i wanted. For that 2 years, i was never happy. I looked at
girls with other girls, I looked at lesbian couples, they looked so happy, and i very much
wanted to be part of them. I didn't want to be stuck in an unhappy, stagnant relationship.

I am clear on my sexuality. I know what i want.But with regards to the article, i can only
say, what the article says may only be true for certain people. When you have really found
what you really want, nothing beats the happiness and satisfaction that comes with it.

I have found my happiness and satisfaction. I have found the one who makes me happy. The
girlfriend and I, that's what makes me happy.

As for what the article writes, i am really sorry if it offends anyone, but i think it is a
load of crap. Then again, this is a case of relativity, to me, i think its nonsense.

Love is never a sin.